It’s been an intense 14 weeks but I survived by the skin of my teeth.
And surprisingly, so has my child.
While becoming pregnant was an unexpected and terrifying surprise for me, I welcomed the opportunity because I knew it would help me to grow as a person, a coach, and a healer.
And when I say “welcomed” I mean that after a lot of crying, kicking, and screaming, I decided it might be an okay idea.
While I’m certainly no expert in the whole mom department, nor will I ever claim to be, I wanted to share a few quick things that I’ve learned in my short experience of being a new mom. YOUR BODY IS FREAKING AMAZING AND YOU SHOULD BE THANKFUL FOR IT
I always tell clients that you should be thankful for your body, no matter what shape it may be in. I tell them to be thankful for the small things, like “that you have ears that can hear your kids screaming” and “hair that covers your head from being sun burnt.”
While these are certainly awesome things that we should be thankful for, I was utterly awed by the experience of my physical body growing an actual human being and thrusting it out into this big world:
All on it’s own….with no help from me.
There were times in my pregnancy that I felt like I should be “doing” more to help out my body. What if my body forgot to make his hands? Or his ears?
But my body was like, “girl, sit down and shut up….I got this.”
So many moms are ashamed of their after baby bods…..the flab, the stretch marks, the pee sneeze, etc.
But considering what that body actually just did for us, I think we should be damn thankful that’s all that we have to complain about. SELF CARE IS NOT AN OPTION WHEN YOU’RE A MOM
I’m not going to lie…..I was worried if I was going to be able to carry on my intricate self care routine like I could before having a child. So many moms tell me that they don’t have time, and I sincerely believed them.
Could this extreme activist for self care keep up her game in the event that she became a mom?
The answer……Is YES!!!
Is it easy?NO!!!
While having time and energy for self care is much more difficult with children, I learned that it’s even more important that you do it. You have a little life that needs you on your A game.
There were a handful of days where I had absolutely no patience…..I was whipping pacifiers across the room…..going outside and screaming my head off.
And it turned out these were the days that I didn’t get in my walk, shower, eat a meal, etc.
If you want to be the best possible parent you HAVE to take care of yourself first. YOU’RE A TOTAL BADASS AND CAN DO ANYTHING!
Before I had my son I considered myself to be pretty hardcore. I grew up on a farm, worked in a hospital, handled my husband’s cancer diagnosis, and battled a mental breakdown.
Maybe I am just a puss, but I consider the pregnancy, delivery, and first 14 weeks of taking care of my newborn IS BY FAR one of the hardest things that I have done.
While I had lots of amazing support on my journey, I think our society has belittled and under appreciated the work, tenacity, and pure grit that it takes to be a mom.
I’ve come across a lot of moms that don’t think they have the strength to be a good wife, mom, employee, the list goes on and on.
But that my friend…..is BS!
Becoming a mother has been an experience that has taught me how truly powerful women are, and yet how loving and compassionate that we can be all at the same time.
Our power and love is what this world truly needs to change.
Don’t be afraid to tap into it. I missed you all and I’m so happy to be back to work!
Thank you all for all of the encouragement, love, understanding, and support on my momma journey!
Lots and lots of love,